The Self-validation Wound

The Self-validation wound is deep and is caused by the invalidation of any part of one’s existence early in life. You might not have felt safe or understood by the people who were supposed to take care of you. It can also happen later in life if your environment is not conducive to self-expression.

If a child has not been validated, they can have a deep-seated wound.

Validation is not the same as approval. Approval is an external judgment of something, while validation is about accepting someone for who they are. It’s also about accepting someone for what they think, feel, and do–even if you don’t agree with it or like it.

If a child is not validated in this way early in life by parents or caregivers, then that child might develop a deep-seated wound around feeling worthy and accepted by others as well as within themselves. This can lead to shame-based patterns such as perfectionism or self-criticism that are often unconscious but which have huge implications for how we relate to ourselves and others throughout our lives

These wounds impact our ability to be in healthy relationships.

The self-validation wound impacts our ability to be healthy in relationship. It impacts our ability to love others and ourselves, as well as how we see the world around us.

If you have this wound, it can make it difficult or impossible for you to receive love from others because of your neediness and fear of abandonment. You may feel like there is something wrong with other people’s love or that they don’t really care about you at all–or even worse: that they are using their love as a weapon against you! This sense of mistrust leaves no room for trust, which prevents any kind of real connection from forming between two people who share this issue together (whether romantic partners or friends).

The self-validation wound is about feeling inherently unlovable and unable to be accepted for who we are.

It’s a deep sense of shame that we carry inside us, but it’s not our fault. It happened when we did not receive validation from others as children, which then leads to an inability to validate ourselves later in life.

The wound later in life becomes about feeling unable to accept yourself unconditionally: you can’t love yourself without having someone else tell you that they love you first, even if they don’t mean it or aren’t good at showing their affectionate feelings towards others (e.g., your partner).

Self-validation is not about being arrogant or believing you’re better than others.

Self-validation is not about being an arrogant person or believing that you’re better than other people. In fact, it’s quite the opposite: self-validation allows us to transcend and include all parts of ourselves–no matter how dark or shameful they seem.

So when we say that someone has a “self-validation wound,” what do we mean? It means there’s something inside them that they don’t accept as part of their true identity. This could be anything from feeling like they’re not good enough at something (like drawing) because they were told they weren’t talented as a child; to believing their intuition isn’t trustworthy because their parents didn’t listen when they said something was wrong; or even just being afraid to show affection in public because it makes them feel vulnerable.

Self-acceptance is the first step towards self-love.

Self-acceptance isn’t about being arrogant or believing you’re better than other people; it’s about accepting yourself unconditionally. When you can do this, you will be able to love yourself and others unconditionally too.

It’s important to accept yourself unconditionally so that you can love yourself and develop healthy relationships with others.

Acceptance necessitates self-love. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being authentic. It’s not about approval, it’s about unconditional love.

When you accept yourself unconditionally and learn to be comfortable in your own skin, then you can start loving yourself more fully–and this will enable you to develop healthy relationships with others as well!

If you feel like you have a self-validation wound, there is hope. You can heal from this deep-seated hurt and learn how to accept yourself unconditionally. The first step is in recognizing the symptoms of this type of wounding and then moving towards healing yourself.